My New Advice Column + Book Release Date

March 27, 2017
My New Advice Column + Book Release Date

Two quick news pegs on this Monday morning:

My new dating and relationship advice column has launched on Yahoo, running every Friday. I’ll be tackling some reader questions in the future, so please feel free to send your relationship problems and queries to jen.birch@sbcglobal.net. Please place “YAHOO QUESTION” in the subject line. I’ll read every one, and may answer your question in an upcoming post.

I also have an official release date for THE LOVE GAP! The book will drop on January 23, 2018. Mark your calendars…

xo.

I'm Writing a Dating Book(!!)

September 08, 2016
I'm Writing a Dating Book(!!)
BIG NEWS: my first book


From the moment I began my career, I wanted to cover dating and relationships. I grew up fascinated by the fairytale; so hard to obtain, yet some version of it seemed almost inevitable if you just did your own thing and waited for love to "find you." (When you least expect it...right?)

Reality, as I came to find out with observation and investigation, was an ever-evolving mess of romantic entanglements leading to heartbreak and despair. Dating got more and more confusing with each new rule and listicle that hit the internet. Research on relationships complicated matters even further; headlines said things that did not reflect what women felt. Gender roles changed within couples; breaking-up-and-making-up became the norm; apps hit the scene, causing perfectly reasonable men and women to throw out prospects early and often, never settling down... and I was watching it all unfold very carefully.

Most notably, some of the best catches out there -- amazing women with otherwise full, exciting lives --- were always single and frustrated. What was playing out in real time seemed to flip conventional wisdom on its head. I started to have a slew of revelations about these emerging, shifting dynamics between the sexes, leading to loads of dissatisfied singles -- revelations that inspired the book I am now working on, to be published in early 2018 by Grand Central Life & Style. 


For any woman who's ever been told she's a catch, yet can't seem to catch a break when it comes to guys, hang in there! I can't wait to send answers your way.

Writing this book is a dream come true, for many reasons. On a professional level, it's the opportunity to extensively investigate something I'm deeply passionate about. On a personal level, I've always been interested in love and how to find it -- but increasingly, I've been interested the pursuit of dreams. 
The first dream many little girls have is to find love. But somewhere along the way, they start to have more dreams. Important ones. They find passions. They start careers. They develop ideas. They create systems. Those dreams turn into vision, and they aspire to affect change.

A woman's every dream and aspiration matters; one is no more important than another, because it came first, or it developed with time, or it conforms to some ideal. Sacrificing one love to acheive career success is a form of settling -- and more women contemplate that route than would dare admit to it.


"Settling" is a dirty word when it comes love, and for good reason. There's nothing more comforting and exhilarating than feeling as though you've met someone who is your equal, complement and true partner in life. I don't want any woman, who wants a great career and a supportive relationship, to settle for less-than-fulfilling love.

This book is my manual for the woman who knows she just can't settle, in love or in life. All her dreams can coexist -- even in a dating landscape as confusing as today's. 


More to come. xo. 

If you're a woman or man in your 20s, 30s or 40s and interested in sharing your insights on love, dating and relationships today, don't hesitate to contact me: jen.birch@sbcglobal.net

Here's to 2014. (A Very, Very Good Year.)

December 21, 2014
Here's to 2014. (A Very, Very Good Year.)
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It's been a while since I updated this blog. It's been a while since I've had time to pause and just 

b-r-e-a-t-h-e.

I always feel reflective this time a year. Am I where I thought I'd be? Hmm... Good question. Bear with me as I flesh this out.

It really has been a good year. It's been a year of imploring, exploring, learning and growing. I've written a lot, I've learned to have thicker skin, I've learned to measure risks and choose paths wisely. And hey, I've also learned that failure is part of the process. I've fallen short an appropriate amount. My perfectionist side has had to recognize, finally, that failure is just figuring out ways your goals can't be accomplished (á la the Thomas Edison approach). You have to fail to break new ground. From now on, I'll keep in mind every time I do.

I've really transformed by career emphasis to center primarily on health, relationship and beauty writing, with touches of general wellness, psychology, style, food + nutrition, fitness and culture (pop, and otherwise) thrown in for good measure. Some of my favorite pieces were a silly mix of all things, like "The Science of a Hot Girlfriend" for Yahoo Health, "How to Pick the Right Running Partner" for the March issue of Runner's World, "11 Reasons Brunch is Everything" for SELF.com, and "Why Women Like D-Bags (And How to Stop Dating Them)" for YouBeauty.com.

I will forever be fascinated by how people tick, digging inside their bodies and brains for explanations, and I think that will always drive everything I love to write about most.

As I kiss 2014 goodbye, and step over the boundary line into the New Year, I'm feeling inspired to be better and just pursue more. I'm feeling entirely, fully, completely blessed. And I hope you are, too. I think it's the best possible way to end a year.

See you in 2015, kids. May it be the best one yet. xo.

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