See Me at The Riveter in Seattle on November 18!

October 12, 2019
See Me at The Riveter in Seattle on November 18!

Single people often feel like there are not enough resources for them in this world (I didn't!), and flying solo can be hard sometimes — so hard, in fact, I get a lot of questions about how to do it well. So it feels good and healthy, not disheartening and depressing. After authoring The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life & Love, I started dreaming up this talk in particular. This one's for any single who's ever felt frustrated by the romantic landscape, the massive number of uncontrollables, and the lack of roadmap about how to do it right.

I will host an interactive talk on How to Be Single in 2019 at The Riveter in Seattle. I will dive into how to build a full, complete life while you’re dating, how to make sure that romantic highs and lows remain in perspective, and what skillsets should be in your romantic toolbox. Other core topics will include ethical dating (dating multiple people at once, communication, breaking it off without ghosting), situationships, how to tell if it’s someone is truly interested, doing a regular dating cleanse/detox, and the value of building friendships before relationships (or at least in equal measure!).

Come join us in Seattle on Monday, November 18. You can get tickets here — along with a copy of The Love Gap, in case you have yet to read about my groundbreaking new way to date. ;)


The Love Gap is Online and In Stores Now! (+ Post-Pub Happenings)

March 05, 2018
The Love Gap is Online and In Stores Now! (+ Post-Pub Happenings)
Thanks to @kendalfedail for the Insta from LA on Galentine's Day!

I first sold the idea for The Love Gap in mid-2016. At that exact moment, I'd been working on the concept for about eight months. I was a hopelessly frustrated dater. And I knew the book was going to be my #1 priority for the next year and a half (it seemed eons away from release).

Now that the writing and publication has come to an end, I'm able to look back on it all and say with total certainty, "That was the best 18 months of my life." And it just keeps getting better. Living in the era of social media, it's been awesome to get an influx of emails, tweets, Instagram tags and Facebook messages from people who've been rocked by The Love Gap's message. I couldn't be more excited to see other people consuming this knowledge I've been organizing, streamlining and fine-tuning for more than two years.

Of course, my Love Gap journey is not entirely finished. In some ways, it's just starting! So, I want to leave you with a spattering of ways to keep in touch with me and keep following my advice for modern daters.

*I have a new expert blog on Psychology Today's site, will continue to write my dating and relationship advice column for Yahoo, and am still a regular contributor for Man Repeller

*I am officially kicking off coaching again, after a long book-related hiatus! Depending on your needs, you can hire me to help you date smarter, or break into freelance/magazine writing. 

*I'll still be covering a plethora of feature topics as a health and lifestyle journalist. For more of my work, or to keep in touch with me (and keep saying hi!), you can follow me on Twitter, Facebook or Instagram

*And for more on The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love, you can check out Hachette's landing page (which also features an excerpt). In addition, you can read more related press coverage like:
...with more to come. I'll post more updates as they become available — but in the meantime, feel free to reach out to me via email, tweet or Instagram if you have thoughts + feelings on The Love Gap or a question for my Yahoo advice column. Happy March!


THE LOVE GAP Is Out January 23! (+ My Favorite 2017 Stories)

January 03, 2018
THE LOVE GAP Is Out January 23! (+ My Favorite 2017 Stories)

First off, I'll start with the biggie: THE LOVE GAP: A RADICAL PLAN TO WIN IN LIFE AND LOVE will arrive on January 23, 2018! ***whoa*** I can't believe this two-year journey will finally come to a close, and I can't wait for women to read it. You can pre-order now.

I also wanted to start 2018 by sharing my favorite stories from 2017. Here are my top picks.

#1: A major reason I wrote The Love Gap

#2: Another major reason I wrote TLG (blame my male bestie; he knows who he is):
What If This Is the Reason Straight Dudes Won't Commit? via Man Repeller

#3: How I learned to save my sanity and preserve my peace of mind:
Why Is It So Hard for Women to Be Selfish? via Vogue

#4: Answering the most common question people ask me about relationships:

#5: Putting my ugly breakup into context as I started to write my book: 
Try Before You Buy via Psychology Today

#6: An ode to my friends (who are the best): 

#7: Cuz you don't gotta say a damn thing about your love:

#8: Cuz T-Swift's songs spoke to me all Nov/Dec: 

I'll be checking in again once the book has finally landed. But as we start 2018, thank you so much for your support. It means the world.


The Love Gap Galleys Have Arrived + More Updates

October 01, 2017
The Love Gap Galleys Have Arrived + More Updates

As I learned this week, meeting your book for the first time IRL is kinda like meeting that Bumble guy you've been talking to for a while. Things seeeeeem to be going well. Your schedules are fiiiinally lining up. But will it actually be everything you want it to be?

It's so great when the answer is, "Yes, and more."

On Wednesday, an unexpected box arrived in my apartment building's lobby. I popped the top, and behold! About 15 perfect pink galleys of The Love Gap. It is fairly mind-boggling to hold your (almost) finished book, looking all sparkly and new and fabulous. All of a sudden, that pub date in January feels a teensy bit real.

Can't wait that long? Neither can I! But at least there's pre-order if you want to get it very first. (Know I am forever grateful.)

Anyway, exciting TLG things going on, and I'm excited to get the book out there to you. But in the meantime, you can catch up on my writing in other ways. I've been scribbling a ton on Myers-Briggs (for the last two or three people who aren't aware I'm sorta into that). You can read those stories over at Teen Vogue, or see both my MBTI work and past relationship columns at Yahoo.

And for a fun sign-off, check out my personal connection to one of The Love Gap's key themes (how men deal with connection, timing, #LIFE) in this essay for Man Repeller.


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