My Latest Venture: Ann Arbor Curated Events

July 17, 2019
My Latest Venture: Ann Arbor Curated Events

In between writing about my health journey and cultural commentary, I am taking on a more locally driven venture for Ann Arborites. (Are you one of them? Email me!)

 About five years ago, right after college, I had a horrible time finding friends. I went to about 8403482 bland parties and boring mixers over a period of almost a year, until I finally stumbled upon my squad—a random fluke of happy circumstances, in which I happened to have some vague connections between new friends. Ultimately, a couple years later (my friendships still intact, and growing!), I wrote a column about my experiences that overwhelmed me with the empathetic response from readers. Turns out, many young-ish adults had the same problem I did—desperately wanting friends, having no idea where to start—that, literally, multiple meetups in different cities formed within the comments section of that story. I knew there had to be a better way to meet friends.

Meanwhile, Amber was one of the late additions to my innermost friend circle, and a fellow self-employed go-getter. When we met, she was pregnant—the first of her friends to become a mom—which she later described to me as isolating. She was constantly in search of friends with whom she could relate. Aren’t we all? Don’t we all want friendships who “get” us, whether it’s through hobbies, similar life experiences, or a particular stage of life? Eventually, after enough conversations about what we could do to fix the search for friends, Ann Arbor Curated Events was born.

We’re aiming to fix that isolation of early adulthood (and beyond). Exclusively for locals of Ann Arbor, Michigan, and the surrounding areas, we want to spice up your social life by matching you with great people who share your interests and social desires—all while going to cool places and doing unique things. So, take our survey, sign up for our emailing list, and let us know how you want this party to get started, ‘kay?

We’re excited to see you out ‘n’ about.

Join us at our first events:

Girls' Night Mixer!
When: Thursday, July 18th @ 6:30pm
Where: Park Avenue Salon in Dexter, MI
Tickets: $15 at the door, $10 for your +1 (bring a friend!)
Includes: Open bar, appetizers, gift bags, prizes and friendship

Summer Singles' Mixer
When: Tuesday, August 6th @ 5:30pm
Where: Details to come
Tickets: Details to come
Includes: Details to come

The Love Gap is Online and In Stores Now! (+ Post-Pub Happenings)

March 05, 2018
The Love Gap is Online and In Stores Now! (+ Post-Pub Happenings)
Thanks to @kendalfedail for the Insta from LA on Galentine's Day!

I first sold the idea for The Love Gap in mid-2016. At that exact moment, I'd been working on the concept for about eight months. I was a hopelessly frustrated dater. And I knew the book was going to be my #1 priority for the next year and a half (it seemed eons away from release).

Now that the writing and publication has come to an end, I'm able to look back on it all and say with total certainty, "That was the best 18 months of my life." And it just keeps getting better. Living in the era of social media, it's been awesome to get an influx of emails, tweets, Instagram tags and Facebook messages from people who've been rocked by The Love Gap's message. I couldn't be more excited to see other people consuming this knowledge I've been organizing, streamlining and fine-tuning for more than two years.

Of course, my Love Gap journey is not entirely finished. In some ways, it's just starting! So, I want to leave you with a spattering of ways to keep in touch with me and keep following my advice for modern daters.

*I have a new expert blog on Psychology Today's site, will continue to write my dating and relationship advice column for Yahoo, and am still a regular contributor for Man Repeller

*I am officially kicking off coaching again, after a long book-related hiatus! Depending on your needs, you can hire me to help you date smarter, or break into freelance/magazine writing. 

*I'll still be covering a plethora of feature topics as a health and lifestyle journalist. For more of my work, or to keep in touch with me (and keep saying hi!), you can follow me on Twitter, Facebook or Instagram

*And for more on The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love, you can check out Hachette's landing page (which also features an excerpt). In addition, you can read more related press coverage like:
...with more to come. I'll post more updates as they become available — but in the meantime, feel free to reach out to me via email, tweet or Instagram if you have thoughts + feelings on The Love Gap or a question for my Yahoo advice column. Happy March!


THE LOVE GAP Is Out January 23! (+ My Favorite 2017 Stories)

January 03, 2018
THE LOVE GAP Is Out January 23! (+ My Favorite 2017 Stories)

First off, I'll start with the biggie: THE LOVE GAP: A RADICAL PLAN TO WIN IN LIFE AND LOVE will arrive on January 23, 2018! ***whoa*** I can't believe this two-year journey will finally come to a close, and I can't wait for women to read it. You can pre-order now.

I also wanted to start 2018 by sharing my favorite stories from 2017. Here are my top picks.

#1: A major reason I wrote The Love Gap

#2: Another major reason I wrote TLG (blame my male bestie; he knows who he is):
What If This Is the Reason Straight Dudes Won't Commit? via Man Repeller

#3: How I learned to save my sanity and preserve my peace of mind:
Why Is It So Hard for Women to Be Selfish? via Vogue

#4: Answering the most common question people ask me about relationships:

#5: Putting my ugly breakup into context as I started to write my book: 
Try Before You Buy via Psychology Today

#6: An ode to my friends (who are the best): 

#7: Cuz you don't gotta say a damn thing about your love:

#8: Cuz T-Swift's songs spoke to me all Nov/Dec: 

I'll be checking in again once the book has finally landed. But as we start 2018, thank you so much for your support. It means the world.


The Love Gap Galleys Have Arrived + More Updates

October 01, 2017
The Love Gap Galleys Have Arrived + More Updates

As I learned this week, meeting your book for the first time IRL is kinda like meeting that Bumble guy you've been talking to for a while. Things seeeeeem to be going well. Your schedules are fiiiinally lining up. But will it actually be everything you want it to be?

It's so great when the answer is, "Yes, and more."

On Wednesday, an unexpected box arrived in my apartment building's lobby. I popped the top, and behold! About 15 perfect pink galleys of The Love Gap. It is fairly mind-boggling to hold your (almost) finished book, looking all sparkly and new and fabulous. All of a sudden, that pub date in January feels a teensy bit real.

Can't wait that long? Neither can I! But at least there's pre-order if you want to get it very first. (Know I am forever grateful.)

Anyway, exciting TLG things going on, and I'm excited to get the book out there to you. But in the meantime, you can catch up on my writing in other ways. I've been scribbling a ton on Myers-Briggs (for the last two or three people who aren't aware I'm sorta into that). You can read those stories over at Teen Vogue, or see both my MBTI work and past relationship columns at Yahoo.

And for a fun sign-off, check out my personal connection to one of The Love Gap's key themes (how men deal with connection, timing, #LIFE) in this essay for Man Repeller.


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